"fixing as a way to keep myself from experiencing my own vulnerability"

Just read these words in a forum thread on Unfettered Mind.  I spent the past two weeks with family. The first week leading up to my mother's surgery with my three sisters and one brother and two spouses in attendance and the second with just my mother as I was the designated caregiver for her recovery.

Being a caregiver- attempting to prevent suffering, alleviate it if that isn't possible, and then to fix it after it has already arisen so that the person involved feels better and knows that I was the bringer of comfort- all of this is designed to keep me from having to feel helplessness, vulnerability, regret, inadequacy, and a host of other uncomfortable emotions.